I knew that I loved my husband Josh after only knowing him for a few weeks. I had written I “heart” fill in the blank with whoever I thought was cutest at the time a million times, but I didn’t really “love” those guys I just thought they were attractive. But this was different. I really did love Josh with that kind of love that makes you sick.
One night when were were on the phone he said there was something he wanted to tell me but he was nervous. I of course didn’t let that one go. I was very curious! After prodding for a bit he said, “you know.” And I knew. I knew when he said those words what he was wanting to tell me. He wanted to tell me that he loved me. So I replied, “you know too.” It became our code for I love you. It was very sweet and I still love it when he sends me a text or signs a card with the words, “you know.” But there came a point when “you know” was not enough. He was ready to say those very significant words. He was no longer nervous, he knew he really did love me and it was okay to say it. “I love you” left his mouth, went into the phone, and travelled from his room in South Tulsa to the phone I was on in my room in East Tulsa. It was magical.
I think this is one of the most interesting conversations in the Bible. It’s Peter and Jesus talking after Jesus died on the cross and rose from the dead.
John 21:15-17 (NLT) After breakfast Jesus asked Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?” “Yes, Lord,” Peter replied, “you know I love you.” “Then feed my lambs,” Jesus told him. Jesus repeated the question: “Simon son of John, do you love me?” “Yes, Lord,” Peter said, “you know I love you.” “Then take care of my sheep,” Jesus said. A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.”
It’s funny to me that Peter kept saying to Jesus, you know, “You know I love you.” If Jesus knew then why was He asking? If you look at the original Greek it’s easy to see the point that Jesus was trying to make.
The first two times that Jesus asks he uses the word agapao for love. Do you agapao me? Agapao is a a very special and deep kind of love. It’s an all giving, uncaused, and unselfish kind of a love.
The first two times Peter answers he uses the word phileo for love. Yes, I phileo you. Phileo is a friendly kind of affection. It’s more of a head love and agapao is more of a heart love.
Of course Jesus knew that Peter loved Him, but he wanted to point out to him that there are different levels of love. I think that He wanted to hear Peter say with his own mouth that he didn’t just like Jesus, he loved him with that very special, deep kind of love.
The last time Jesus asks Peter he uses the word phileo. Peter, do you like me? Again, Peter responds with phileo.
Why didn’t Peter ever use agapao? Why didn’t he proclaim his love for Jesus was more than just a friendly kind of affection? Maybe he was too prideful. Maybe he didn’t want to admit how much he loved Jesus because it’s kind of weird for a guy to love another guy so much. Maybe he was just counting on the fact that Jesus really did know how he felt and so there was no need to get all gushy about it.
I say get gushy! It’s Jesus!! He deserves to hear us say with our mouth that we LOVE Him, that we AGAPAO Him! He is looking for more than a “you know” this Valentines Day so take some time on the day devoted to love to lavish your Savior with it.
- God is love!
- For God so loved me, that he sent His only son for me.
- 1 Corinthians 13.
- I am more in love with Josh today than I was all of those years ago.
- Surprised the kids with a special Valentine’s breakfast. Strawberry pancakes with whip cream and syrup.
- The little voices chanting “pancakes, pancakes” when they realized that’s what I was making.
- Gus enjoyed putting surprise Valentines in the mailboxes of some of his friends from church this morning.
- Nana & Papa came to visit us today!
- They had s safe trip here.
- Nana brought all of her cute Valentine’s plates, cups, table cloth, place mats, and cupcakes and cookies for a special Valentine party.
- Aunt Brooke & Uncle Scott sent Gus a Jake sword that he was very excited about.
- Aunt Brooke & Uncle Scott sent Beau some adorable Minnie shoes that she wore from the moment she opened them until she had to go sleep.
- Grammy & Grampy sent Gus 3 new guys for his battle arena. He now has every single warrior. He was pumped.
- Grammy & Grampy sent Beau a Minnie dress up doll and a Minnie book.
- Nana & Papa got Beau a Doc McStuffins doctor kit.
- Nana & Papa got Gus a Fix It Felix Jr. hammer and belt. He wore it from the moment he got it until it was time to go bed.
- Nana & Papa brought me some Little Debbie Valentine heart cakes.
- Nana & Papa gave us a great Valentine’s day present… free babysitting!! Saved us $55 tonight!
- In N Out. $9 for Valentines dinner. That’s what I’m talking about.
- Kid free shopping at the Allen Premium Outlets.
- My husband likes to shop as much or more than I do.
- I found shoes! 3 pairs of cute shoes!
- Put together a cute Easter outfit.
- Finished shopping in time to go see a movie.
- Mr. Pibb.
- I had quite a handsome date tonight.